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3 ways to work through conflicts with your co-parent

On Behalf of | May 4, 2021 | Family Law |

Divorced parents who are raising children together don’t always see things in the same manner. It’s possible that the child custody matters will lead to contention years after a divorce is final. 

What’s the best way to sail through disputes with your co-parent — before they turn into matters for the court? Consider these three tips:

Work on communication skills

Communication is often the key to resolving a lot of conflicts. Asking your co-parent exactly what they want to see happen and clearly communicating your limits and goals in return is the best way to eliminate confusion. Make sure that you practice communicating in a semi-professional manner (like you would with a work colleague) so that you don’t say something you’ll later regret.

Leave the past alone

The past shouldn’t determine the future unless it’s shown that the children are in danger for some reason. Except for something that puts the children’s health or safety in jeopardy, there isn’t much about the past that should be brought up when you’re discussing child custody issues. Your focus should remain firmly on the present and what needs to be addressed today, not the failing of the past.

Take a step away

When tensions rise, you may have to take a step away from the situation — and your co-parent. This gives you a chance to think about what’s going on and determine the best course of action. It’s also a time for you to consider how you will word your replies to your ex so that you don’t seem like you’re inviting a conflict. 

It’s important for you to get the parenting plan set for the children as quickly as possible. This gives them the stability they need to thrive. Your attorney can help you to determine the best method for doing this.